Everything Happens For A Reason! Rule of the 2 R’s™

Where are you supposed to be?  Thinking Global, Acting Local, going “glocal”  with the  “Real Reason Rule ™.”

Do you appreciate the concept that everything happens for a reason? I am a firm believer in this philosophy and know all our experiences are directed from a higher source. When going through something, many times it might not be until you get in the middle of it do you see the “real reason” something transpired. Our global lesson proved this theory showing how the “Real Reason Rule™” is always applicable.

My husband Tom and I have been on a journey around the world and in the middle of the South China Sea we got a call from family letting us know that his 92 year old mother had been admitted to the hospital with pneumonia. Serious thoughts of guilt began to rise as we thought about her original concern with us taking the trip at her age. Gertrude, Tom’s mother, was not in bad health when we left so we felt that 104 days should not be a problem and we proceeded with our plans.  We had driven to Colorado from Arizona for Thanksgiving prior to embarking on our January voyage to say our personal goodbyes and hopefully made her feel better about the trip.

Upon receiving the news about his mother, Tom checked in frequently with his sister, about his mother’s condition.  Gertrude improved and was moved to a re-hab facility which was good news for all of us. The news of the tsunami and earthquake in Japan on March 11, 2011 was also starting to undermine the thoughts of everyone on the ship including our family watching the news and knowing we were very close in the China Sea. The only news coming through on the satellite to the ship was the Aljzeera network which continually repeated the bad news about the global disaster in Japan.  Prior to the incident in Japan we did not have any news at all on the TV so getting to catch up through the broadcast was helpful as we processed what was going on in the world around us as we gradually approached Japan.

The decision was made by the trip organizers to cancel the stop in Japan and change the last port before Hilo, Hawaii to Taiwan. Tom and I started to think about how his mother loved looking forward to visits from us so we decided that disembarking after Hong Kong and Shanghi then going to Colorado to be with her might help the healing process.  We e-mailed and called our daughter in Arizona and a friend in Colorado asking for help with trip plans as the Internet service on the ship was not working well and we wanted to take action immediately.  All of the flights leaving Hong Kong on the short notice were going though Japan and that global stop was not an option. Our daughter booked us a flight leaving from Shanghi direct to Los Angeles. Nineteen hours later we were in Phoenix, Arizona on solid ground, happy to be in the United States of America.  The fifteen hour time change was quite an adjustment as we crossed the international dateline and had the opportunity to live March 30th twice.

There were several reasons we decided to disembark from the journey early.

  1. Tom’s 92 year old mother was in re-hab after contracting pneumonia.
  2. The Japan disaster was a looming danger which caused some concern for our family.
  3. The ports of call on the trip were almost complete.  Having lived in Maui, Hawaii for three years, the last stop in Hilo was just extending the voyage time.
  4. 21 more days of crossing the Pacific was not going to add to our Global knowledge as the international cultural engagement had been completed.
  5. My head needed to re-boot with all the global experiences before I could accurately write about the lessons and rules that unfolded in each country.

To our friends who indicated that 104 days on the ocean might be too much, you were right! We were so happy to see the sign “Welcome to the United States of America” and Welcome to Los Angeles.

Why is she explaining all this you may be asking? To share how this global activity shaped our local experience in allowing us to travel back to Colorado and be where we needed to be for two very important reasons we were not aware of at the time we made the reservations.  Everything happens for a reason and the “Real Reason Rule™” became clear after this adventure.

Five days after making the decision to disembark, while still on the ship we had a call from the son of a close family friend. His mother had passed away and they were having the services on April 8, 2011.  I was able to assure him that we would be there and would be able to help with anything that needed to be completed.  He was so appreciative that we would be able to attend and be there with his family.

Seven days after we had decided to leave and still on the ship, our daughter in Phoenix called, very upset as she had totaled her car in an accident. She was not hurt but frightened and needed the support of her family. We had made arrangements for her to fly to Colorado to see her grandmother as we were going to drive and she could not take off more than a weekend. We were all together this past weekend and it was a healing event for everyone as we were all together,  able to make plans for the future and move upward with our thoughts supporting one another.

The celebration of life service for our family friend of thirty years, Cindee Murphy, helped me continue in mental growth about life and it’s meaning. Cindee’s son Kip delivered a memorial speech emphasizing the hyphen between the dates of her birth July 17, 1943 and her death March 27, 2011.  Creative writing has been going on  in my consciousness while working on a chapter about the meaning of a persons “dash.”  Several new ideas connected as he spoke so lovingly of his mother.  The family had Santana and Pink Floyd playing as they flashed photos of her life on the two big screens.  I was moved beyond description as I saw my picture included in the family treasures. The photos initiated thinking about all our experiences and how she would be missed then my thoughts turned to the higher meaning of her life and what she gave to us and what we gave to her.  Cindee Murphy’s dash made a difference in the world.  She always completed her real estate business with unblemished ethics and set the bar for high standards in the industry.  We were  sounding boards for each other on ideas that were outside of the box and she was always respectful and kind in the way she responded.   Based on Cindee’s vision for the service, she had us dance out of the hall with Santana blaring thinking only happy thoughts of Love.

Creating letters to friends and relatives upon passing is something I had only seen in movies and read about in books. I had never experienced receiving a letter from anyone I knew who had passed.  Cindee’s son brought me a letter she had written to me along with a beautiful red bag that contained two hand beaded, purple necklaces and bracelets Cindee had made especially for me.  I wept as I read the letter and will only share one sentence Cindee wrote to me:  ” ….you gave me one of the biggest gifts anyone has been able to give me.  That was to constantly reinforce my relationship and love with my son, Shawn.” Remembering conversations in the past helped me realize how  verbal exchange really does affect people and how important positive reinforcement is in our relationships.  I know I will take this lesson from Cindee and start to write letters to my friends and family NOW,  letting them know what they have done for me and how they have helped me with along the way. Hopefully, dear reader this might touch you and the “pay it forward concept” sharing how someone has helped you in the NOW makes a difference in their dash as well as yours.

Had we not made the arrangements to get off the ship early we would have missed this once in a lifetime opportunity to share with family and friends the celebration of life of a very special individual, Cindee Murphy.  I am so grateful to have learned the “real reason rule™” and realize how important it is to listen and then respond accordingly when ideas come, as everything does happen for a reason.

We were able to be where we needed to be and did not know the “real reason” to disembark until we had already made plans to leave. Tom’s mother was recovering beautifully and two families who really needed support, received our love and physical presence because we listened and believed that everything happens for a reason.  Taking this global lesson and applying it to local situations makes this glocal lesson the “real reason rule™.

The contest, Where in the world is Carra Riley is still active and will continue as originally outlined until April 24, 2011.  New photos are being posted on facebook and flickr daily along with  youtube videos of the port adventures. Double points are available on some venues so jump in or keep playing, the game is still on! Winner for prizes to see one of the seven wonders of the world will be announced May 13, 2011.

About Carra Riley

Fun loving classic writer who is a life long learner. Helping people connect the dots as a consultant for small business and real estate along with custom workshops and seminars.

Comments

  1. Ruth Chichester says:

    Wow! You and Tom have had quite a ride these past few months. Keeping your heart open to the daily alterations and the ebb and flow has paid off, huh? Mom and I learned many years ago that nothing is “coincidence”, and have marveled many times over the years at how events seem to simply play out around us and for our benefit to create the best of life. And my faith being what it is, I see this as the eternal Divine HAND who holds me and leads me and loves me.

    All the events, even far around the world, leading up to your coming back stateside show this! But, I’m so glad that you didn’t miss out on the very BEST that life has to offer: the fellowship of friends and loved ones!
    Welcome home!

    • Ruth ~ Thank you so much for your comments. Sharing the real messages we have been getting is my goal as we connected the dots around the world. Writing on the ship was difficult for many reasons but more posts should be coming along with more photos. Thank you so much for going on the voyage with us and keep up the good work. You have helped make the journey much more meaningful. Thank you again Ruth and I hope to meet you one day! Warm aloha, Carra

  2. Carra,

    I’m so happy and relieved that you and Tom are back safely and in time to unite with family and friends at precious times in their lives.

    I’m a great believer in the Real Reason Rule. We only get to experience it if we listen to our inner voice, our Higher Power, that gives us clear instructions. We don’t have to understand them but just heed them. Thank God you did.

    Welcome home to much love and more adventures ahead.

    Blessings,
    Flora

    • Flora,
      What a loving welcome back. It is great to share with you! Can’t wait to hear how the Wizard of Oz piece is coming along!
      Warmest aloha,
      Carra

  3. Glad you’re back safe and sound and had wonderful lessons and experiences! Love prevailed!!

    Hugs to you all… Anne

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